Posted on June 11, 2020 in Child Custody

Have you ever heard the term “Disneyland dad” or “Disneyland mom?”

It’s the phrase used to describe a non-custodial parent who sweeps in on their rare visitation weekends, scoops up the kids and showers them with gifts, suspends bedtimes, loads up on pizza and other goodies and basically turns the entire weekend into a party — leaving you to be the disciplinarian who makes the kids go to bed on time, do their homework and eat their vegetables.

That gets really old really fast when you’re the custodial parent who has to deal with the emotional fallout every time the kids come back home. You might understand when grandparents act that way, but is it too much expect your co-parent to be an actual adult?

Probably. Here’s are some things you can do:

1. Let the kids have their fun: It sounds counterintuitive, but you’re only hurting yourself and your relationship with the kids by scowling over the presents or growling over the way their other parent lets them run wild. Bite your tongue if you have to, but work on smoothly steering the kids back into their usual routine without comment on your ex’s parenting skills.

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 Posted on June 10, 2020 in Firm News

The breakup of a family unit is difficult for everyone, but perhaps most traumatic for younger, school-age children.

Traditional litigation can be especially stressful for children, but they fare much better when parents choose the less adversarial approach known as collaborative divorce.

Understanding how it works

In a collaborative divorce, each party engages the services of an attorney trained in this kind of process. The attorneys will provide guidance and assist in negotiations that ultimately lead to a settlement satisfactory to both spouses. Collaborative divorce covers all the issues spouses expect a judge to help settle during a traditional court proceeding, including property division,child custody,child support and spousal maintenance. Often, spousesbring in professionals such as accountants or social workers whose expertise is helpful in resolving sticking points.

Realizing benefits

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 Posted on June 05, 2020 in Divorce

When it comes to their parents, kids expect a happily ever after. Unfortunately, things don’t always work out that way. Life happens, and couples grow apart. Husbands and wives split up. The hardest part of it all is breaking the news to your kids. It’s not easy telling them that your family is breaking apart and that mommy and daddy won’t be living together anymore.

Children react differently to divorce, depending on their age, personality and their relationship with their parents. Kids often blame themselves for their parents splitting up. They often think that it’s their fault. Children experience a variety of emotions from shock to sadness, anger, frustration, worry and fear upon learning about their parents’ split.

Parents must assure their children that their divorce isn’t their kids’ fault. Couples should avoid having arguments and discussions about separating in front of their children. Maintaining a routine and keeping disruptions to a minimum is vital for their continued development. It’s at the point when you and your spouse are splitting up that it’s more important than ever that you maintain an active and positive presence in your children’s lives.

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 Posted on May 29, 2020 in Child Custody

Being a teen isn’t easy. Their bodies and emotions are often in flux at this age. There are pressures put on them to do well in school and extracurricular activities and to prepare themselves for adulthood. All of this can be difficult for them to manage. If their parents announce that they’re getting divorced, this may add another level of complexity to a teen’s life, especially if they have to travel between their mom’s and dad’s homes.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to devising a shared custody schedule. Parents must take into account their careers and preferences when negotiating how to split custody. What’s perhaps most important, though, is that they maintain a semblance of normalcy for their teen.

Teens tend to spend the bulk of their time in school, participating in extracurricular activities and with their friends. They don’t respond well to unwanted change.

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 Posted on May 22, 2020 in Family Law

What can you do if your child’s other parent is lagging behind in their support payments?

Across the United States, there are billions of dollars in child support that go uncollected every year — and Texas is not immune to the issue. While a child support order is a legal obligation, many paying parents fail to uphold that obligation either because they hit a rough financial patch or simply don’t want to pay.

If your ex’s child support payments have stopped coming, here’s what you can do:

1. Talk to the other party. If they’re temporarily out of work, you can at least understand why they aren’t paying. While you can’t absolve them of their legal obligation (or the interest they may accrue), you can work with them to try to get the payments back on track.

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 Posted on May 15, 2020 in Divorce

When you think about “hidden assets” and secret stockpiles of wealth that your spouse may be hiding (so that they can avoid splitting any of those assets with you in the divorce), your mind probably goes first to “offshore accounts.” Maybe you even think about modern inventions, e.g., Bitcoin, that are uniquely designed to evade detection.

Have you considered asset trusts in South Dakota? A lawsuit involving a Texas billionaire has cast a spotlight on these trusts that make it easy for wealthy people to hide their income and property from everyone else — including their own spouses. According to reports, South Dakota is actually becoming a “mini-Switzerland” when it comes to stockpiling assets from prying eyes.

According to the suit, the billionaire and his wife amassed a lot of properties and assets during their 30-year marriage — everything from vacation homes to some of Marilyn Monroe’s clothing and jewelry. When the husband filed for divorce in 2017, however, his wife discovered that he’d allocated much of their possessions (including the couple’s tableware) to trusts.

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 Posted on May 13, 2020 in Firm News

Your home is important to both you and your spouse. If you are heading for divorce, though, you must decide what happens to the property. After all, continuing to occupy the residence with your ex-spouse after your marriage ends is probably not possible.

In Texas, couples have some options for dividing marital property. To stay in the home, a divorcing spouse may decide to buy out his or her partner’s ownership interest. Commonly, though, couples choose to sell the house and split the proceeds. If you go this route, you may want to consider taking the following four steps.

1. Think about occupancy

You may not want to live with your spouse before your divorce concludes. Nevertheless, because vacating the house may harm its selling potential, either you or your partner may want to remain. If you both vacate, working together to stage the property may become essential.

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 Posted on May 07, 2020 in Divorce

When you’re approaching a divorce, it’s important to educate yourself as much as possible about your options and make some good financial decisions.

That’s not always easy. If your spouse has typically handled most of the family finances, you could be blindsided by the amount of debt you owe — or completely uncertain about your assets. That makes it very difficult to plan for your future.

Meeting with a financial advisor before you take steps to make the divorce official can be a wise decision. To prepare, you should gather the following:

• The last three years worth of tax returns (since your spouse may have hidden income or assets in the past that might be uncovered that way)
• Copies of the deeds to any real property you or your spouse own

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 Posted on May 01, 2020 in Child Custody

Electronics are integral to American society, yet many parenting plans fail to include provisions about their use and access. This isn’t a mistake you want to make.

Most of the time, that’s because the children are still fairly young when the parents divorce. Other times, one parent will assume that the current “rules” regarding electronic use will continue after the divorce — only to be upset later when the other parent changes the rules for their home.

Electronics make it easier for parents who don’t live full-time with their children to stay connected and maintain their bonds with their children. It makes it easier for a child to reach out whenever they want — or need — to talk with that parent. With that in mind, here are some things your parenting plan should address:

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 Posted on April 24, 2020 in Child Custody

When you and your child’s other parent divorce, it’s common for you to want to maintain a semblance of normalcy in their lives. If you have traditionally traveled abroad with your kids to visit family or on a school break before, then you may assume that you can continue to do so once you and your ex split up. That’s not always the case though. It could leave you at risk of losing custody and put you at risk for criminal charges if you do.

Children under 16 are generally required to have a passport to travel abroad to other countries. Both of a minor child’s parents must generally show proof of their parentage and appear in person to request a passport for their child. It is possible for a mom or dad with sole custody to apply for a passport for their child without their other parent’s prior authorization though.

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