Facing life after divorce is often an intimidating prospect. For some, it can be downright frightening–but you can overcome your doubts and fears.
Here are three tips for making practical strides forward and managing life after divorce:
1. Find the inner you
The fact that you are no longer part of a couple, that you are now a single person, may seem like a daunting reality, but this is the perfect time to redefine yourself. What have you been missing? Explore new interests and new hobbies. Staying busy will help you right the ship and get on with your life. You have more time for yourself now, and that can be a revelation.
2. Build a support network
You do not have to navigate choppy post-divorce waters alone. Allow a good friend to help by accompanying you to lunch or a movie. Join a fitness club or a reading group. Volunteer at a hospital or museum. You may want to join a support group to meet others who are working their way through the aftermath of divorce. Expand your support network, and draw strength from others.
3. Minimize the effect on family
In any divorce, the welfare of the children will be a top priority. Next comes the relationship between you and other family members, as well as their interaction with your kids. You want as positive a relationship as possible all the way around. Spend extra time with your children, and be observant regarding their needs. Be a good listener. You may be able to confide in your family members, but refrain from criticizing your ex-spouse in front of the children or your former in-laws. Set a positive tone going forward, and maintain a balance of understanding and respect.
From the attorney who helps you through the divorce and your close friends to the people you meet as you expand your interests, you will find that you can rely on the support of others who understand what you are going through. Conquer your doubts and fears by taking advantage of all the resources available to you, and embrace the future.