While people often feel like divorce comes on suddenly, the reality is that many people simply overlook red flags that could have shown them something was wrong well in advance. Understanding what your future holds helps you plan for that future, so here are a few common red flags to keep in mind.
- You always compare yourselves to other couples that you know. You wonder if you are as happy as they are or if you have as much fun as they do. These endless comparisons indicate that you’re missing things in your own relationship.
- You keep telling friends and family just how well the two of you are doing, as if you’re trying to convince them. Are you really just trying to convince yourself?
- You start spending far more time doing things without your spouse. Maybe you begin working late or spending extra time with friends. Maybe you spend your evenings on your phone, scrolling through social media sites to see what everyone else is doing. The real problem is that you are not spending time with your spouse — and perhaps you don’t want to.
Identifying these red flags does not mean you can absolutely save your marriage. A relationship takes cooperation from two people. If your spouse has already checked out, it could be too late to get things back on track.
If that’s the case, then these red flags just give you a warning that it is time to start thinking about divorce. Make sure you know all of your legal rights and the different steps that you need to take.